About Marriages and Single Life (for the undecided guys)

How can we convince a young man, or even more a middle-aged, that the marriage is a good business? The Opposite site is true at all, since the person who’s decided to go to the gallows seems to be sure that is doing the best thing of his life…

When the singles are asked about a possible wedding, the first argument always is: “What about my freedom?” In fact, about this point, the positions seem to be very different.

The single ones don`t need any special permission to leave home at nights; whatever they want to do; it doesn’t matter when or in which company, cause they manage their lives as their will. If you awake in middle of the night with that feeling, that desire, and full of life, stand up, put your best shoes, your best shirt and go, go out, go away, because you are the master of your own life.

With the married ones, things change a little… And all sometimes start just few days after the honeymoon, or even during this. Maybe at the first PMS after the wedding. Those beers with the friends, the happy-hours after job on Fridays, the football… “Forget about, because you are married and you have a family to take care! Keep your beers inside the fridge, if you need it, for a lower price, by the way.” It`s hard, but it can happen indeed.

One of the best sides of a single life is the option of always be possible change and restart. A bad relationship can be fired. You can suffer at the beginning, that’s true, but life must go on. And then, some days after, or some weeks, or months, you can breathe again and fall in love again, like magic; or just walk away, single, sometimes alone, but always free.

Being married, you can breathe too, and you can count until 10, until 100, and just say: “Ok, honey, let’s go do it as your wish…” It can be said, for example, when you and your partner are making plains for your next journey. And so, many things must to be considered, like kids scholar holiday, budget… Things which don’t worry you if you are single, because all you need is the money for the tickets, some bucks for food, or not; other bucks for the beer, of course, you need; and somewhere to stay, if possible.

Well, everything seems to circle around freedom, independence. Would it be just it?...

But, we must consider that some guys can really find a good woman, with whom it could be possible share happiness, sadness; sometimes, conquests; other ones, tumbles. Someone who motivates you when self-confidence seems to run away. A woman who knows what to do to make you feel better, even when you don’t ask for this, because she simply knows you and sometimes seems to be, in fact, part of you. This kind of sensation is far away from the singles because, at the most part of the time, when they awake with someone, they don’t remember her name; it’s possible they can’t remember even how they went to there. So complicity is something only thinkable, not felt.

And when the questions are “Why have I come to this world and for what? Which is the life’s purpose, its meaning? What do I hope at most to my life, to give her any sense?”, the answer is: children. When you reach this understanding, friend, aspects like freedom, independence, variety may become secondary.

So many questions, many issues, but, if these simple considerations could make you able to decide about this, guys, good. If it makes you experts about the subject, better. But if it gives you the exact answer about marriage or single life, the best one, please, write to the writer and say it.